Free Amazing Tips on How to Managing Anger

We are faced with difficult situations or people on a daily basis. Usually we are able to shrug off the negative treatment we receive due to these. There are times, however, that we have a tendency to take things to heart and allow ourselves to become very angry, not managing anger. This can lead to further problems in our personal relationships as well as adding unnecessary stress to our lives.
Anger is a normal part of our psychological response system that allows us to express ourselves in an assertive manner. As such, it can be a very handy tool when it is kept under control and used in a positive way. The hardest part in this is in learning to manage our anger before it controls us.
So, How Do I Control It?



There are steps that we must take in order to manage our anger properly. The first step is to learn what negative thoughts or feelings may be causing us to be angry. Once we know whether we are mistaken in our beliefs we can then begin to adapt them to a new positive way of thinking. This will alleviate some of the burden of anger from our shoulders.
The next thing we must approach is any biases that may have been learned during our developmental years that are now causing us to express our anger inappropriately. We may be afraid of those who are different than us whether culturally or physically. This may cause us to have little patience when dealing with them and can cause us to feel angry due to our fear or ignorance.
After we correct these misplaced attitudes we will be much less likely to lose our temper. This will also help us to keep any anger we may have been harboring deep inside from building to dangerous levels.
Next we must learn to express appropriate anger in a way that will allow us to handle the instigating situation appropriately. If we continue to bury anger deep inside we will often feel very depressed and/or anxious and it will begin to show in our personal relationships. We may not even realize that we are having these feelings. All we tend to realize is that we feel down or that we are having inexplicable feelings of anxiety.
Now that we have learned the first steps to controlling our anger we must now learn one more that is the most crucial of all.
How Can I Mend The Wounds Of Anger?
Many religions teach their followers to forgive others as they would like to be forgiven. This is a very important issue. By harboring wounds that have been left by others we will carry a deep and lasting resentment that will continue to fester and manifest itself in many inappropriate ways. By letting go of this deep seated anger we will free ourselves from the devastating effects that the resulting anger may carry. By forgiving others we will remove the fangs of the anger and free us from its venomous grip.

Felix Nutter