What Causes Your Shyness?

Shyness refers to the feeling of discomfort you may feel when you are around other people. Shyness is actually quite common and many people experience it from time to time. Some people; however, are shyer than others. Shyness is not a voluntary emotion. Typically, it is simply a feeling that just occurs. In fact, shyness can often occur without any warning. In some cases shyness is not always a bad thing. For example, shyness can help you in the adjustment to a new situation or even new people. It gives you the time needed to observe the situation before you become involved. In some cases; however, shyness can be quite disturbing and it can even prevent you from doing the things you want to do. To help overcome shyness, it is important to understand the cause of shyness.

First, it is important to understand that one cause of shyness can simply be the fact that you may have been born that way. Simply put, some children are more sensitive and shy than others. Observe babies and you will notice that while some babies seem to wave at everyone they see, others may hide their faces. In these cases it is possible that there is a genetic factor at work. A child who is shy may have a parent who is shy as well.
Even people who were not shy as young children; however, may still become shy later on. In this case, the cause of shyness could result from experiences during your childhood. For example, if a child has a parent who is somewhat aggressive, the child may become shy. Other relatives which are critical can also result in shyness. In addition, family problems can cause shyness as well. For example, a child whose parents have separated or divorced may suddenly develop shyness as their disturbance over the event is turned inward. Families which are not affectionate can also play a role in the development of shyness. The child may not be able to develop a sense of accomplishment or respect if they are not shown pride and joy by their families.
Children and people who experience disturbing or embarrassing experiences may also become shy at some point. An individual or child who has attempted a public performance and not had a successful outcome or who was ridiculed may feel anxiety and shyness about performing in public again.
While there are certainly many causes of shyness, the good news is that a person who is shy does not need to feel as though their life is being interrupted by shyness. There are many techniques which can help an individual to overcome shyness so they can enjoy more in life, regardless of the cause of shyness. Immersion techniques, in which the individual is gradually exposed to situations which may cause them to feel shy, can help them to overcome those feelings so they can enjoy such experiences without anxiety. These types of techniques can also help people who experience shyness when they perform.

Trevor Johnson